OK, look, we need a rule. And the rule is, that the men in my life - *all* the men in my life - are people. They are individuals with names.
They are not part of some strange species called "men" to be lumped together and guarded or railed against. They are individual people, each with personal attributes and flaws.
They aren't always perfect. They don't always act or feel the way I would choose. Sometimes they are inconsiderate and hurt me. But they are still people, and people make mistakes and people are not perfect.
I do not dismiss people for being imperfect. I do not lump people who are imperfect. I do not stop caring about and valuing the men in my life because they are imperfect and don't always act as I might wish or want what I want. I take them for who they are and what they have to offer.
Yes, some people are evil, dysfunctional cheating garbage, but that is the rare exception and that says nothing about the men in my life right now.
And further. Look, I understand that the Hunky Actor and I have been broken up for just two months. I understand that we broke up and got back together more than once. So I understand that it's difficult to understand how we could so quickly become friends and just friends.
I get it if you think my heart is involved or still hanging on. I get it if you're just waiting for us to get back together.
But my recommendation is not to put money on that bet because you will lose it.
The simple fact is that the Hunky Actor and I are friends, just friends, and btw becoming really good friends. The kind of friends who may create stories and laughs together to share with the world. The kind of friends who talk on the phone about movies and dating and the industry, and the kind of friends who hug goodbye. And let me tell you, I need all the hugs I can get.
So I trust that with time our friendship will become something you can believe in, because I already do and I'm not letting it go.