So, I am an honest and straightforward person who never hides who they are. My goal with my online dating profile is first and foremost to be authentic and specific, rather than to have a more general profile designed to garner a lot of dates. The other way is perfectly valid if you're at a point where you want to go out a lot and meet a lot of different people, but these days I'm more into quality than quantity.
But. I'm considering changing my profile to downplay my gray hair as much as possible. And then yes, having it show up to the table, because it does have the quality of being attached to my head. 30-Something with Gray Hair: Surprise!
Right now, it's totally out there on my profile, as is my style. I say this:
The first things people usually notice about me:
I’m betting it’s a tie between my natural Rogue-streaked hair and my ebullient laugh.
And this is one of my pics, where my hair looks really white in front of the fountain:
And I usually feel most sympatico with and date younger guys, which makes it potentially even more of a thing. Though let's be honest, like the entire age dynamic in dating, it's probably even more of a thing the closer a guy is to my age. Just as more younger guys will date up in age vs. older guys who tend to want someone younger than them. I suspect it's a Gen Y v. Gen X thing, but who knows.
But the point: I love my hair, but sometimes it makes me feel like I'm asking a lot of the universe. I know for a fact that some of the people around me think that.
Back to the online dating profile, whatever you're going to see or think when you meet me in person, it's got to be weird to consider on the page and just looking at pics. I suspect I would have a more attractive profile if I downplayed it, and then just showed up as a full, in-person package. Looking my best and laughing ebulliantly. Because I think once you get used to it, a lot of people do find my gray hair interesting and even attractive.
But I just don't know if I have it in me to play that game.
What do you think? Should I try it?